At the end of this week, our nation begins a new chapter. The inauguration of Donald Trump as President of the United States is something no one ever dreamed would happen.
It is unimaginable. But it is happening.
I have been thinking about the momentous changes that could and probably will occur as a result of Trump becoming President and Republicans taking over Congress.
I admit I have done a lot of hand-wringing and worrying in the two months since the November election. But now I’m able to take a deep breath and tamp down my emotions and ramp up my cognitive skills.
It occurred to me that this is not the first time that we have faced an incoming presidential administration that is vastly different from the one before.
During my lifetime, beginning in 1946, this has happened repeatedly. It appears to be a pattern. Why, I don’t know.
Since WW II, there has been relative global peace. Yes, there have been regional wars on every continent except ours. We have sent troops, advisors, educators, military police, and other types of aid to many of these regional wars. We’ve even started a couple of them. I acknowledge that. There has not been TOTAL world peace, but there has been RELATIVE world peace, compared to WW II.
Many in our nation have prospered beyond their wildest dreams during these 70 years. Others, not so much.
Technology has become more and more a part of our lives, from the invention of the portable phone, satellite phone, and cell phone, to the garage door opener, self-parking car, heart-lung machine, high-definition television, silent dishwasher, wearable fitness bands, internet, and on and on.
Social change has come for many — slowly, yes, but it has come.
In those same 70 years since the end of WW II, we have experienced a yin and yang in presidential administrations.
So what does “yin and yang” mean?
Let’s think about yin and yang in presidential administrations. In our country, we have just two large political parties: Democrats and Republicans. Their occupation of the presidency has alternated regularly since WW II.
Just take a look:
–Harry Truman (Democrat) served from the time of Roosevelt’s death in 1945, to Jan. 1953.
After Truman, we had Dwight Eisenhower. Eisenhower (Republican) served from 1953 to Jan. 1961.
After Eisenhower, we had John F. Kennedy and Lyndon B. Johnson.
Kennedy (Democrat) served 1000 days, from Jan. 1961 until he was assassinated in Nov. 1963, and Johnson (Democrats) served from Nov. 1963 to Jan. 1969.
After Kennedy and Johnson, we had Nixon. Richard M. Nixon (Republican) served from Jan. 1969 to Aug. 1974, when he resigned in disgrace.
Then Gerald R. Ford, Nixon’s second Vice President, was sworn in as President and served until Jan. 1977.
After Nixon and Ford , we had Jimmy Carter. Carter (Democrat) served from Jan. 1977 to Jan. 1981.
After Carter, we had Reagan. Ronald Reagan (Republican), served from Jan. 1981 to Jan. 1989.
George Herbert Walker Bush (Republican, referred to as Bush 41)- the only President that breaks my pattern — was elected right after Reagan and served one term, from Jan.1989 to Jan. 1993.
After Bush 41, we had Clinton. William Jefferson Clinton (Democrat) served from Jan. 1993 to Jan. 2001.
After Clinton, we had Bush 43. George W. Bush (Bush 43, Republican) served from Jan. 2001 to Jan. 2009.
After Bush 43, we had Obama. Barrack Obama (Democrat), served from Jan. 2009 to Jan. 2017.
And now, after Obama, we will have Trump, a Republican in name only.
Donald J. Trump, a Republican since 2012, has switched parties at least five times over the last 30 years, according to U.S. News.
Thus, there has been a back and forth between Republicans and Democrats throughout my 70 years.
So, for some reason, we have continued to alternate from one party to the other. Since 1972, each Democratic President reduces the national debt and puts in place revenue streams that would balance the budget eventually. Then each Republican cuts taxes and makes the debt balloon once again, through what Bush 41 called “voodoo economics.”
Not only foreign policy and economic policy are affected by the yin and yang of presidential administrations.
Domestic policy is also strongly affected by the back-and-forth swings. Civil rights, women’s rights, social justice, environmental issues, and many other causes advance and retreat as the administrations change.
One aberration in this trend is the second Nixon administration, the one starting in 1972, which saw Roe v. Wade decided, and the Environmental Protection Agency established.
Under Obama, great strides in social justice, environmental justice, and use of alternative energy sources have been made, but a lot more need to be made.
However, the incoming Republican administration opposes all the ideals that I hold dear: social justice, women’s rights, minority rights, marriage equality, preservation of the environment, alternative energy, saving endangered species, climate change, national parks – you name it.
To Everything There is a Season
Which us brings us back to the Bible quote that I used for the title of this post: “To everything there is a season.”
This comes from the book of Ecclesiastes, the 21st book of the Old Testament, RSV, Chapter 3, placed right after Psalms and Proverbs in the Protestant version of the Bible.
To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, an a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
a time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.
So maybe the coming four years are that yang of the yin and yang: our time to break down, weep, mourn, cast away stones, refrain from embracing, lose, rend, speak, hate, and make war.
We can oppose what the Congress tries to do, by civil disobedience, protests, petitions, marches, speeches, demonstrations, and resistance. We can try to stop the worst of it, and work hard to stem the tide of reactionary backward movement for the next four years, until the time comes to elect a new President more in tune with the 52% of the electorate that voted for HRC.
It’s important that we try to be good citizens of our nation, and that means obeying the laws, building rapport where we can, and working for the principles we believe in.
To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under Heaven. Even Donald Trump.
We’ve all heard the terms “climate change” and “global warming” for two decades or more.
We’ve seen the scientific explanations, the ice core samples from the Arctic, the endangered species like the polar bear, the horrific hurricanes, floods, heat waves, and wildfires of recent years.
But unless you live in California, Colorado, Florida, Louisiana, or New Jersey and have personally experienced severe weather events, you may have been wondering how climate change and global warming will affect you.
I’ve been studying this and I’m prepared to explain the truth about climate change and you.
In this post, I’ll tell you what I’ve learned about the personal effects of climate change. I found out that what you will experience–
depends on where you live
depends on your age, gender, and health status
depends on your type of job, if employed
depends on what investments you have, who manages your pensions if you have them, and what income sources you have
depends on your sources of energy
depends of your sources of water
depends on what you eat/your diet
Once you know the truth about climate change and you, you may decide to make some changes in how you do things. If you do, then you can feel confident that you are doing your best not to make the situation any worse than it already is!
No single individual can alter climate change, but together, we can reduce its severity.
Climate change where you live
If you live on or near the East Coast, Gulf Coast, or West Coast of the United States, or on the Alaskan coast or in Hawaii,you will experience damage to your coastal property and nearby roads and bridges from rising sea levels and increased storm surge. You will see increased temperatures all year round.
According to NASA, the ocean levels will rise between 1 ft and 4 ft by 2100, and have already risen several inches in the last decade. The increase in ocean levels is due to the accelerating loss of sea ice and the melting of glaciers around the world.
Oceanfront property will gradually disappear as ocean levels swallow it up inch by inch. High tides will be higher.
Hurricanes and typhoons will be stronger and more intense from now on, leading to greater damage to property and infrastructure from wind and water. You may lose your house in the next giant storm.
Damage to roads, bridges, wastewater treatment facilities, electric utilities, homes, and businesses in coastal areas will result in higher local taxes, insurance costs, and utility fees as state and local governments work to repair destruction caused by weather events. Your budget will be affected by these increased costs.
Coastal wetlands and marshes will be inundated by seawater, resulting in a loss of sea lands by tribal groups, extinction of local marsh-dwelling species, loss of habitat for ducks and other waterfowl, amphibians, and freshwater mollusks.
Governments in the coastal areas will experience higher costs for providing temporary shelter and supplies for people displaced from their homes by weather events.
If you live in the woods and mountains in the northeast, upper midwest, west, or southwest, you will see trees flowering earlier than usual, plant and animal ranges shifting to the north, increased insect activity attacking and killing trees (like pine bark beetles), more forest fires, fewer ski days in winter, more droughts, and higher prices for energy, transportation, and insurance. You will see increases in local and state taxes as local and state governments need more money to keep up with the loss of tourism dollars, fight fires, remove dead trees, repair roads, and deal with increasing unemployment. Your budget will be affected.
If you live near a major body of water – as 53% of Americans do – you will see a decline in river and lake levels and an increase in sea levels, and increased acidification of lakes, rivers, and oceans. Increased acidification ofwater means more fish will die. Fewer species of fish can survive in acidic conditions. Fewer fish and fewer fish species mean reduction in income for tourist-based businesses such as resorts, cabin rentals, fishing guides, bait shops, hotels and motels, boat sales, restaurants, and convenience stores in vacation regions. Fewer fish and fewer fish species may mean changes to your diet if you are accustomed to eating local fish. The economic losses lead to lost tax revenues. Local governments will have to raise their property tax levies, which affects your budget.
Less water in the Great Lakes means decreased tourism as well as habitat destruction. Tribal groups will see decreased wild rice harvests and more difficulty in maintaining traditional ways of life for tribal groups based around the Great Lakes.
Less water in lakes and streams means reduced stream flows. Salmon are especially vulnerable to reduced stream flows, and will find it difficult to reach spawning grounds. Warmer water makes salmon more susceptible to predators, parasites, and disease. When water reaches 72 degrees F, fish kills result. Heavy winter floods can wash away salmon eggs and gravel spawning beds.
Shipping routes (such as the Ohio, Mississippi, and Missouri Rivers) will be interrupted as they already have been, as river levels drop, leading to higher costs for shipping by railroad and by truck, and increased costs for gasoline and diesel fuel.
If you live in an agricultural area, then you will see rising temperatures seriously affect crop yields. The growing season will lengthen. Precipitation patterns will change. As crop yields shrink, prices rise. Feed for cattle, sheep, goats, hogs, chickens, and turkeys gets more expensive.
Livestock, especially cows, are affected by rising temperatures. The dairy industry will be powerfully affected by climate change. According to the NASA report cited earlier, cows produce less milk when temperatures rise above 77 degrees F.
The wine industry will see reduced grape quality. Flood damage to crops and property will drive insurance costs up. Farmers will see reduced yields in wheat, soybeans, and rice. Corn may benefit from higher temperatures at first, but then insect damage will increase, leading to more herbicide application. Rising costs of production will mean fewer acres of land under cultivation, resulting in higher food costs for consumers.
Climate change has already had a serious effect on pollinators: bees, birds, butterflies. Without pollinators, we won’t be able to produce most fruits and many vegetables.
Many of the foods and crops we rely on need or, at the very least, benefit from bee pollination. Here’s a list of some of those crops.
If you live in a large city, especially in the Southwest (Phoenix, Albuquerque, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, Denver) then according to the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), you will be affected by rising temperatures that are increased by the urban heat island effect.
Longer and more intense heat waves mean power outages for you, as people turn on air conditioners and run them longer. Air quality will decline as carbon dioxide concentrations increase in city air. More people will die from heat stress: the elderly, children, those with disabilities, those suffering from respiratory conditions, pregnant women. More people will suffer from stomach and intestinal illness following power outages as bacteria increase in warm environments.
If you live in a rural area, then you will be affected by rising temperatures and reduced state budgets for road maintenance. Transportation costs will increase due to higher energy costs and scarcity. Diseases carried by mosquitoes, ticks, and fleas will increase. Herbicide and fertilizer runoff into streams and lakes will increase in heavy rainfall events, leading to flooding contamination of water supplies. Wells will run dry and access to clean drinking water will decrease. Your costs for taxes, food, gasoline, heating fuel, and other necessities will rise.
Climate change and your age, gender, and health status
Extreme heat affects health. Medical professionals know this. Public health officials prepare for it as summers approach each year.
Climate change makes summers hotter as well as increasing ambient temperatures all year round. Your age, gender, and health status determine how you respond to increased temperatures in your environment.
The truth about climate change and you includes your age. Heat stress disproportionately affects older Americans and young children because these two extremes of the human life span are not as good at handling heat stress as adults 18-49.
According to the EPA report cited above, your age will determine how you respond to temperature and weather events. Children and older adults need to spend more time indoors in a cool basement or curtained room away from the sun’s heat, drink plenty of water, and reduce their physical activity. Poor air quality also affects children and older adults more than adults 18-49. Asthma, smoke from wildfires, airborne allergens, ozone concentration, and other particulates (dust, sand, sea spray) are serious problems for older adults and young children.
If you are an adult over 50 or care for young children, then you will be affected by climate change through higher air temperatures and poor air quality at some point, if you have not been already.
Your gender also affects your response to climate change.
Women are more often responsible for caring for children and the elderly, for carrying out tasks that are more difficult to do in hot weather, such as laundry, cooking, cleaning, yard work, and transportation.
Women are more likely to die or be displaced as a result of natural disasters. They are more likely to be poor and have less access to resources than men.
Your health is one of the most important factors in determining how you will fare in the coming years of climate change.
People with chronic conditions such as diabetes, arthritis, asthma, COPD, heart failure, etc., are affected by heat stress, humidity, and poor air quality. Those with allergies to spring pollen or ragweed also suffer more during weather events that include high winds. If you have a compromised immune system because of chemotherapy or a immuno-suppressant drug regimen, you can be in danger from the bites of mosquitoes, ticks, and fleas because of the diseases they carry from animals to humans. Extreme weather events also cause stress and loss which affects those suffering from mental health conditions.
Your ability to adapt is an important asset during climate change. If you can take steps to safeguard your health by following public health guidelines, doctors’ orders, and common-sense principles like staying inside at high noon, drinking plenty of water, avoiding sugar, and taking part in appropriate exercise, then you are more likely to suffer minimal health effects from climate change.
Climate change and your job
If you are employed, self-employed, an active sports person, or volunteer at outdoor activities, then climate change can affect you through those pursuits.
People who work outdoors in recreation or tourism jobs, mining, farming, transportation, construction, building maintenance, road maintenance, fire fighting, garbage collection, gardening, law enforcement, and education are at greatest risk for heat-related and other weather-related death or injury. Paramedics and student athletes also suffer during heat waves and severe cold events.
If you work at one of these jobs, play an outdoor sport, run or walk for exercise, then you must plan for how you will protect yourself during times of extreme heat, cold, wind, rain, air pollution, and dust. These climate change episodes will occur.
If you prepare yourself with the proper clothing and protective gear, arrange your schedule as much as possible to avoid exposure to these weather extremes, limit the time you are exposed if you must be outside, and get recommendations from your public health department or physician, then you are more likely to survive the worst parts of climate change weather events that affect your job or other activities.
In addition to your job or outdoor sports, climate change will affect your recreational pursuits. Hunting, fishing, bird-watching, hiking, riding, skiing, skating, swimming, and other outdoor recreational activities will be affected by climate change. Hunters will see fewer deer, elk, and waterfowl available, with shorter hunting seasons and smaller bag limits. Fishermen and -women will see fishing seasons shortened or even cancelled, as they were in Minnesota in recent years, due to the severe population crash of walleye.
Climate change and your investments
I am not a financial planner or advisor. But I have investments and I receive pensions and distributions from a 403b and other sources. Anyone who is retired, disabled, or soon to be either of these will depend on investments and pensions (your own or other people’s) and/or part-time employment for income to live.
So it’s important to think about what effects climate change will have on your investments and work possibilities. If you have control over how your money is invested, then you will want to look into it immediately.
From my research, here is what I learned about the future of investing.
PHYSICAL: damage to land, buildings, stock, or infrastructure owing to physical effects of climate-related factors, such as heat waves, drought, sea levels, ocean acidification, storms or flooding
SECONDARY: knock-on effects of physical risks, such as falling crop yields, resource shortages, supply chain disruption, as well as migration, political instability, or conflict
POLICY: financial impairment arising from local, national, or international policy responses to climate change, such as carbon pricing or levies, emission caps, or subsidy withdrawal
LIABILITY: financial liabilities, including insurance claims and legal damages, arising under the law of contract, tort, or negligence because of other climate-related risks
TRANSITION: financial losses arising from disorderly or volatile adjustments to the value of listed and unlisted securities, assets and liabilities in response to other climate-related risks
REPUTATIONAL: risks affecting businesses engaging in, or connected with, activities that some stakeholders consider to be inconsistent with addressing climate change
Whew. That’s a lot of risk to take in.
Let’s think of some examples. Let’s say I own stock in a portfolio of mutual funds that invest in shopping centers in Florida. What are the chances that my shopping centers are going to be affected in some way by climate change — in other words, that they are at risk?
Looking at the list of six kinds of risk, I see that the PHYSICAL risks (damage to land and buildings) are great, since Florida is prone to be the target of hurricanes and flooding, and because much of Florida is only 3 feet above current sea level. I might think about selling my shopping center mutual funds and buying something else.
Let’s say I own stock in a coal mining company. Coal mining has been declining in recent years as alternative energy sources have increased (solar, wind, hydro, geothermal), and the costs of production of coal have increased.
Coal mining is also perceived as “a bad thing” by environmentalists and is declining for that reason as well as because of legislation in some states that mandates that electric utilities reduce their use of coal.
Looking at the six kinds of risk, I see that the POLICY risks may affect my investment. Financial impairment of my coal company might result from changes in local, national, or international policy responses to climate change. I might think about selling my coal company stock and buying something else.
According to my research, certain sectors of the economy are going to experience increased demand due to climate change.
For example, the EY Report cited above suggests that the following groups may benefit:
manufacturers and operators of renewable energy assets
energy efficiency technology
carbon capture and storage
batteries and other forms of energy storage
while other industries may suffer because they are heavy users of fossil fuels. For example:
If I buy and sell commodities, then it would be important for me to know that various government reports indicate that certain crops will be affected by climate change:
wheat, soybeans, and rice yields will decrease due to higher ultraviolet radiation, diseases, insects, and weeds
U.S. food production overall will decrease by as much as 27%
livestock production will decrease (hogs, cattle, goats)
Since I now know that there will be serious health consequences from climate change, I might want to ask my financial advisor whether I should invest in hospitals, drug companies, ambulance manufacturers, and products used by hospitals. Your investments may vary, but it’s worth looking into what they are and how they might be affected by climate change.
Climate change and your sources of energy
Is your home heated by oil, natural gas, propane, or electricity?
Does your vehicle run on gasoline, diesel, or electricity?
Have you installed any solar panels or geothermal systems?
Do you buy wind energy from your utility?
Up to now, you may have thought that your answers to these questions were not important. But today, they are.
Fossil fuels are the biggest producers of greenhouse gases like carbon dioxide that are accelerating climate change.
The things you do every day, like turn lights on and off, run your dishwasher, wash clothes, watch TV, and read this blog on your computer, are using electricity. How is your electricity produced? Is it provided to your local utility by a coal-fired power plant?
If so, then YOU are causing climate change to worsen by using this electricity.
You and your family may want to have a discussion about how you can increase the role of sustainable sources of energy in your life. Have you studied ways that you can support wind and solar energy?
The states of California, Arizona, North Carolina, New Jersey, Nevada, Massachusetts, New York, Hawaii, Colorado, and Texas are the top 10 solar producers (in 2015, according to SELA.org).
Do you live in one of those states? If not, what is your state doing about solar energy?
How about wind energy?
As of December 2015, the top 5 wind producing states were Texas, California, Iowa, Oklahoma, and Illinois.
What is your state doing about wind energy?
Many utilities are offering consumers the option of purchasing sustainable energy instead of, or in addition to, energy produced by fossil fuels. Have you checked your utility’s website recently?
Climate change is here, and most countries in the world have agreed to reduce their use of fossil fuels. This means that fossil fuels will become less available and more expensive. Now is the time for you to make changes in your use of energy. The costs of fossil fuels are not just in your electric bill or gasoline charges for your vehicle. Their production affects our air quality and water quality also.
Climate change and your source of water
One of the ironies of climate change and the precipitation patterns it affects is that fresh water is becoming scarce. Yes, even though we see huge rain events and floods, fresh water is disappearing.
Agriculture is the biggest user of water – responsible for 80% of U.S. water use. States like California and Washington are agricultural-producing states that serve the nation. If they don’t have enough water, then their food production will decrease and our costs to buy food will increase.
Six western states have 56 million people (California, New Mexico, Arizona, Nevada, Utah, Colorado), 90% of whom live in cities, according to the EPA Report/Southwest cited above. All these people are at risk of water scarcity due to drought.
States like North and South Dakota, Iowa, Nebraska, Minnesota, Colorado, Kansas, Oklahoma, and Texas are using water from aquifers (underground water basins) for their agricultural production. Some of the aquifers are being depleted by growing municipal use as well as agricultural use. When there is prolonged drought, the aquifers do not get refilled. Once they run dry, then what? (For more information, see Against the Grain by Richard Manning.)
The droughts in the western states are particularly worrisome because they mean that the western aquifers are not being recharged by rain and snowfall.
People in rural areas of the U.S. generally get their water from private water wells. Towns and cities get their water from rivers and lakes. When the depth of the water table underground increases, then it is harder for people to get water in their wells. When river and lake levels decrease, then there is less water available for the town and city populations to use.
Where do you get your water? What is your level of confidence that you will have access to clean water during the next 30 to 50 years?
Climate change and what you eat
Did you know that what you eat also contributes to climate change and water shortages? That’s a big part of the truth about climate change and you.
Unless you’ve been living in a cave for the last 20 years, you’ve probably heard that beef production is both the biggest cause of habitat destruction and the largest user of water in the agricultural world.
According to Gracelink.com, certain vegetables, fruits, and nuts use way more water than other foods.
If Americans (the biggest eaters in the world) changed their diets and ate foods that use less water to produce, then our current water shortages would be less serious.
Let’s look at the list of foods and the water required to produce them, according to the websites just cited.
If you alter what you eat, you can save water and reduce greenhouse gases, all at one time! Here’s an example of a new vegetable-based meal.
This meal used far less water and far less carbon to produce.
So, what can you do?
Now that you know the truth about climate change and you, what should you do in response?
There are MANY things you can do. Some of them, you probably are already doing, like recycling, reducing your use of packaged and processed foods, changing from old-style lightbulbs to CFLs or LEDs.
But wait – there’s more!
Here are some more things you can do to reduce your personal contribution to climate change:
–Turn off computers, TVs, peripheral devices, cell phones, and anything else that uses electricity when you are not using them, and ALWAYS at night when you are asleep.
–Make a real effort to use public transportation (buses, trains, light rail) whenever possible. Rearrange your habits of shopping so that you can take a bus or light rail instead of driving alone to a store. If you are able, use a bicycle or walk to your destinations.
–Drive less. Do you really need to make that extra trip to get batteries? Plan ahead!
–Buy energy efficient appliances, like dishwashers that have a no-heat dry cycle.
–Stop using paper plates, plastic plates, and other disposables. Take your insulated travel cup with you to buy brewed coffee, if you must buy it instead of making it yourself.
–Buy local food. Plan your meals a week in advance.
–Produce food yourself! You can grow beansprouts in your own kitchen, tomatoes and peppers on your patio or balcony, etc.
–Use your contacts to find a farmer who produces organic beef, chicken, lamb, or pork, and buy your meat directly from him or her.
–Reduce the amount of meat that you eat. Start with one meatless day per week, and work up to three or four per week.
–Support candidates who are serious about reducing greenhouse gases, starting with your local city council or county board.
–Buy products made from recycled materials: computer paper, toilet paper, paper towels, clothing, outdoor furniture, bags/totes/backpacks/wallets, activewear, hats, toys, sunglasses, building materials, and on and on. Check this website for ideas: http://bgm.stanford.edu/pssi_5rs_buying_recycled_products
–Figure out how to reduce your costs by 10% next month by using less, eating differently, driving less, using less electricity, buying recycled items, walking more, using library books instead of buying books, making Goodwill, ARC, Saver’s, and other thrift stores your new go-to shopping destinations.
–Switch your investments to sustainable industries and companies that are green.
You can do this. You and your family and friends can help stop the acceleration of climate change through your daily behavior. I hope you’ll give some of these ideas a try!
Yes, I made it. I reached the top of that mountain.
If you’re a faithful reader of this blog, then you know that I’ve been talking about moving since 2011 – when I had a heart attack and got a stent put into my LAD (left anterior descending artery) to keep me alive.
At that point, I suddenly realized that there were a lot of things that I wanted to do that I hadn’t done. Time was running out. So in 2011 I decided to sell my home and move to Colorado, where I had wanted to live since I was 18 and saw it for the first time as an adult.
Fast forward to now: I tried to move to Colorado in 2011 and 2012 — I even made an offer on an 1880s miner’s cabin in Leadville — but the spirits had other ideas. My house didn’t sell the first year, or the second, etc., etc., until the sixth year: 2016.
And then suddenly it sold. I had to get out in 30 days. I wasn’t ready. It was a nightmare.
Lucky for me, a friend stepped up and offered me her rental home to live in for as long as I needed it. I estimated that I would need it for one to three months.
It ended up being almost four months. But now it’s over. I begin my life over after a long journey.
How I did it
How did I do it? How did I finish my move from 4000 sq ft of single-family house and garage on six acres of woods in a rural area, to a 900 sq ft condo on the second floor of a multi-family building in a first-ring suburb of a major metropolitan area?
Through grit and determination, that’s how.
It was strictly “I think I can, I think I can”, and “I, the Little Red Hen”, and “inch by inch, row by row”. Every day during this process I had to give myself encouragement.
It was actually quite a lonely process. For some reason, I thought people would line up to help me, but they didn’t.
I made a lot of lists: what to sell, what to keep, what to give away, vendors to contact, people to notify, tasks to be accomplished, what I needed in a new home, and on and on.
This is a long story, so you might want to get a cup of coffee before you read the rest of this saga.
My month-by-month process of moving
July. I called a moving company as soon as the purchase agreement for my home was signed in July 2016. The moving company sent an estimator a few days later. He walked through the house and garage with me and determined how many boxes of stuff I would have, and the size of truck that would be needed to haul the stuff to his warehouse for storage.
I knew I would need storage because I had no place to move to.
That was the next thing I did: look for a place to live.
I soon found out that I could not afford any of the single-family houses available in the metropolitan Twin Cities. Next I looked for apartments that would accept pets.
Again, nothing I could afford, and nothing that would take a dog and a cat.
So then I looked for condominiums and town houses all on one floor that would allow a medium-sized dog and a cat.
I found exactly ONE such development and quickly made an offer on a two-bedroom condo. The seller rejected my offer. So I made an offer on another unit in the same development. And then the waiting game began.
The second offer I made in July was on a “short sale” property. The owner tried to avoid foreclosure by asking the mortgage holders to allow the property to be sold for less than its value.
In my case, the owner had two mortgage holders and the condominium association standing in line for money owed. My realtor estimated that it would take about two months to resolve all the issues and get the title to the condo cleared and ready for me to buy it.
So I applied for a mortgage. That process was terrible and I am still angry about it. I worked with a company where I had been a customer for nearly 30 years, so I expected smooth sailing.
July – October. There was no smooth sailing. To make a long story short, it took more than four months and mountains of paperwork to get my mortgage approved – and I have a credit score of 834. It was a freakin’ horror show. But it’s over now.
After more than four months of waiting, I got a closing date for the purchase of the condo. I wired the money for the down payment. The closing was cancelled. This happened four times (although I only had to send the money twice).
When the closing actually took place, the seller did not show up. So I signed all the papers but one that the seller was supposed to bring, and went home to wait for the last paper. That took several days, plus an electrical inspection by the city, and more paperwork delays. But finally, on November 8, the condo was mine.
August.Oh, by the way, I had to move out of my house on August 28. I rented a storage locker in the town where I would live temporarily in my friend’s rental. I put my computer and files, a card table and chair, a suitcase of clothes, a few cooking pans, boxes of canned food, and other things I needed to live for 1 to 3 months.
The movers loaded up my things on August 29 and took everything away. I took my dog and cat to their familiar boarding kennel and went to an inexpensive motel in a third town. On September 1 and 2, I moved into my friend’s rental and brought the pets there.
September, October, November.For the next three months I worked at my part-time jobs, sent more and more paperwork to the mortgage company, and waited. And waited.
When I finally took possession of the condo on November 8, I hired a handyman recommended by another of my friends — thank God for friends! I put him to work painting the walls and trim and removing the old carpet and flooring. Then I ordered new carpet and vinyl flooring to replace those badly worn materials. Next, I got a telephone line and ordered cable TV and internet service. I picked out new appliances and donated the old ones to my handyman’s cabin. At last, I arranged for the movers to bring my furniture during the first week of December.
I was still living 170 miles away and working my part-time jobs. I did a lot of driving and pet boarding while I was being the general contractor on the remodeling project.
Meanwhile, the carpet store ordered the wrong carpet, but fortunately that selection was back-ordered. When I found out the mistake, I got the store to order the right carpet, and shipped it over the weekend of a major snowstorm. But it arrived on the 24th of November, and the installers put it in on the 25th. It was beautiful, just as I had hoped. The vinyl flooring arrived late, so I had to postpone the appliance installation. But workers got it done just before Thanksgiving.
All this time I was living in the condo part-time, and at my daughter’s apartment part-time, and up north part-time.
During November, when I had to work up north, I would drive up from the Twin Cities, stay a few days, work my half-day, take my dog to the boarding kennel, and drive back to the Twin Cities. Then after a night or two, I would return to the rental up north, after picking up the dog. It was stressful. My poor kitty stayed alone at the rental at least two nights a week.
December. December came. After the movers delivered the furniture to the condo on December 2, I brought the pets down. I began moving out of the rental housing one car-load at a time.
I had many carloads of things at the rental housing — clothes, books, computer equipment, pet needs, tools, food, cooking equipment, TV, radio, basic furniture, and a set of antique living room furniture that I had bought for the condo. I had to find a place to donate my twin bed after my last night in the rental on December 16. And I had to unpack boxes and put things away in the condo and walk the dog 7 times a day. Literally.
There wasn’t enough space for my possessions. Even though I had given away and sold mountains of stuff, there was still too much. So back I went to Goodwill and ARC, giving away even more things.
Oh, I forgot to mention that I had rented a 10′ x 10′ storage locker 15 minutes away from the condo. I needed the locker to hold the items (mostly books and American Indian items from my 20 years of study and participation in activities). The moving van went to the storage locker after delivering my furniture to the condo, and unloaded my storage items.
I had to give away some items from the storage locker to make room for items from the condo that I could not part with yet. That process is continuing.
I begin my life over
As one of my blogging colleagues put it, moving is not only a physical process but also a mental and emotional process.
During my six-month journey from my beloved country home to the condo in the metro area, I needed motivation and encouragement.
I went back and forth between sadness, relief, excitement, anticipation, dread, discouragement, and confidence.
To get through the days, I relied on my favorite sayings like “I think I can, I think I can”, and “I, the Little Red Hen, planted the wheat, harvested it, threshed it, ground it to flour, and baked the bread, and now I shall eat it.”
I also relied on ideas like “inch by inch, row by row, I’m going to make this garden grow”, especially when I felt discouraged and faced with seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
I found a web post that was helpful in providing more quotations that were motivating, including this one:
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are. –J. Pierpont Morgan
And I remembered one of my favorite Bible passages: Hebrews 12: 1, “Let us also lay aside every weight…and let us run with perseverance the race that is set before us….”
I was confident that if I just kept going, eventually the work would be done. All the things I needed to move would be moved. I would be done working up north, and I could settle into my new home and begin my life over.
I’ve moved many times before, started over before, and I knew I could do it.
And that’s what I’m doing now, beginning my life over, in the last week of December 2016. Everything took longer than I expected, and was more difficult to complete. But now there is enough floor space in my apartment to walk around. And more —
I unpacked this computer and set it up.
I cooked a Christmas dinner for myself.
I visited the local senior center and found a bridge group to go to.
I submitted applications for two volunteer opportunities.
I’m ready for 2017 to come. Not ready for what it may bring, but ready to look out the window and see what there is to do.
I’m registered for the Women’s March on January 21.
Are you faced with moving?
If you have to make a journey like this, to downsize and simplify your life, then let me tell you that you CAN do it. I recommend that you get some people to help you. I didn’t have anyone to help me, and it got very lonely at times. Often I felt despair and hopelessness because I had no help.
If it had not been for my friends Suzanne and Cherie, I would not have been able to complete my journey. Reach out to your friends for help!
I also recommend the making of lists, which helped me to complete the process.
The essay describes Demetra’s political awakening over a period of 11 years, ending with this fall, 2016.
Update, Dec. 11, 2016: Unfortunately, after I published this blog post on Nov. 22, Demetra asked that it be taken down. You can look for it elsewhere on the web.
I think all women can benefit from reading Demetra’s journey so far – and she’s only 24. When we awaken to the oppression that many people face each day, it sharpens our resolve and gives new purpose to our lives. Each of us needs to have a political coming-of-age narrative.
Right now, I’m living in the midst of ambiguity. I find myself worrying almost daily about my future. I don’t WANT to be worrying, but I am doing it. I don’t know what tomorrow may bring.
So I’ve decided to find the best ways to live worry-free in uncertain times — the times I am facing right now.
Here’s my situation of uncertainty:
I’ve sold my house, but I don’t have a new place yet.
I’m living in temporary housing in a new town through the generosity of a friend. Don’t know the neighbors. When I move again, I won’t know a new set of neighbors.
I don’t know where I’ll be three or four weeks from now – here or somewhere else.
I’m lonely and have no friends nearby. It’s isolating.
I don’t have my “stuff”; it’s in storage.
The seasons are changing from summer to fall to winter, and In Minnesota, that can happen overnight. When I wake up tomorrow, will it be summer? Will it be winter? Who knows?
I don’t know whether I’ll be able to keep my dog when I finally move into a new home.
I have questions about what I’ll do with my time, once I move from here and have to give up two of my three part-time jobs. More uncertainty.
In other words, I have no certainty about my day-to-day life. I can’t plan anything.
This is a difficult and troubling situation for me – a planner with a capital P!
The best ways to live worry-free
I’ve reached the point, after 5 weeks in temporary housing, where I’d like to get control of my worrying, and get rid of it. So how can I do that?
1. Acknowledge that worry doesn’t change anything and doesn’t help the situation of uncertainty.
Of course I already know this. You probably do too. Worry is pointless and a waste of time. I can’t count the times I have said to myself, “Stop worrying. You can’t do anything about this, so forget it.” And sometimes that works! Sometimes just telling myself that worry doesn’t change anything will allow me to move on to other thoughts.
2. Instead of worrying, make lists of what’s going right.
Yeah, I already make lists. I’ve got lots of lists. I’ve got lists of people to notify of my change of address, items to sell or give away (more than I’ve already done when I moved out of my house), bills to pay, furniture to buy for the new place, installers to contact, and so on.
It’s not that I don’t have lists. I do have them.
It’s that I haven’t been making the right kinds of lists. I need to be making lists of things that are going right.
For example, right now my health is pretty good. Right now, the sky is blue and it’s warm (today, anyway). Right now, I have enough to eat and a roof over my head.
Even though it’s someone else’s roof.
Right now, I have enough clothes to wear and good shoes. I have relatives who care about me. I have friends (not here) who care about me, even though they are many miles away.
Right now, I can walk to a few stores and a movie theatre. The grocery store is 5 minutes away by car. And my car runs well.
And so on. These are the kinds of lists I need to make – the ones that celebrate what I DO have, and not what I don’t have.
3. Live in the present moment.
I read recently a saying attributed to Dale Carnegie: “Today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.”
What that saying pointed out to me was that it is the present moment that is important, not the future or the past. The present moment, right now, is all we have. THIS moment is the one that is important. The future may be uncertain, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. Today is ours to enjoy or to waste. And I decided not to waste it!
4. Find joy in simple things.
Can you cook a good meal? Then do so, and enjoy every bite!
Are there pretty sunsets where you live? Then plan to be outdoors or to look out the window when sunset is coming up.
Does your dog or cat have soft fur? Then reach down and pet him or her, and enjoy the feeling of the fur on your palm. Tell him or her how good he or she is, and see the love in your pet’s eyes.
Are you breathing well? Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Feel the comfort of being alive today. Give thanks for it.
Do you have a favorite sweater, shawl, or vest? Get it out and put it on. Feel the warmth and comfort of familiar clothing.
Are there pieces of music that you enjoy listening to or playing on an instrument? Listen or play once a day. Pay attention to the feelings that the music stirs up in you. Don’t let your mind wander. Listen closely or play expressively.
Do you enjoy wearing perfume or inhaling the scent of flowers? Put on your favorite scent, or plan a walk in a garden, indoor conservatory, or florist nursery that has blooming plants. Breathe deeply and feel the pleasure of the scents that surround you.
5. Realize that you can’t know everything.
Most people like to know and understand what’s going on around them. One scholar described it this way:
The human mind is, for the most part, set on being in the know. We don’t like being uncertain or confused, we seek answers and explanations, a pattern we can recognize to make sense of what’s happening around us. In the face of an elusive solution, or a murky, messy problem, a lot of people are ill at ease.
My current situation is the epitome of this: feeling uncertain and confused, seeking answers and explanations, trying to find a pattern in what’s going on (which is NOTHING!) in my long wait for a new home.
But what I have to learn to accept is that I CAN’T know everything. Even if I could plan each and every day, I still could never anticipate what life is going to bring. I need to develop tolerance for ambiguity – for NOT KNOWING.
[Tolerance for ambiguity] means staying in uncertainty, or staying with the question, despite the discomfort of not knowing the answer, or not knowing where we’re headed. It requires relinquishing control – even though a solution isn’t always guaranteed – to make room for new and emerging connections to crystalize into a clear direction. It also means accepting the fact that there might be numerous ways of answering the same question, each with different but potentially positive results.
I need to understand that there could be many possible answers to my uncertainty about the future. And I could find positivity in many of them.
The author of this essay on tolerance for ambiguity recommends trying to stay neutral, curious, flexible, and patient while uncertainty reigns. These can be good attitude goals.
6. Work toward these attitude goals: Stay neutral, curious, flexible, and patient
So how do I do that?
Staying neutral means that I must control my mood swings and stop alternating between extremes like giddiness and despair. Instead, take a step back and go for rationality.
Staying curious means that I must stop catastrophizing (expecting the worst) and stop living in a dream that my new place will be perfect in every way. Instead, I’ll remain curious about what it will be like to move into a condo in a new city that I’m only partly familiar with.
Staying flexible means that I must not make a lot of decisions without any facts to support them. Instead, I’ll think in terms of options and possibilities.
Staying patient. Ah, yes, my most difficult challenge. I am NOT very patient, sometimes. Other times, I can be very patient. So it’s time once again to work on patience.
And what about you?
If you’ve read this far, you probably are dealing with some uncertainty as well. What’s the source of your uncertainty?
For many people, uncertainty can come with a job change or job loss, with retirement, with a health issue, with moving (like me), with a death in the family, with divorce, with a relationship issue, with a change in financial circumstances, or many other possibilities.
Whatever the source, uncertainty can really mess up your emotions.
I hope these suggestions for the best ways to live worry-free in uncertain times will help you. They don’t fix the problems, but they offer a way to make it through till the picture becomes clearer.
Living worry-free is a choice. It may not seem like it to you, but it is. You can CHOOSE which thoughts to think and which feelings to feel.
If you decide to make use of the best ways to live worry-free in uncertain times, then I believe things will go better for you. You’ll use your present moments well, find joy in simple things, and encourage yourself to be neutral, curious, flexible,and patient as you wait for your future to come into focus.
Let me know how these ideas work for you. Please comment!
If you read “The Truth about Downsizing and Relocating”, my post from August 2016, then you know the difficulties that I’ve been facing as I sell my large rural home of 13 years and try to move into an apartment-sized condominium in an urban area.
If you didn’t read the previous post, I’ll review it briefly: after having my home listed for sale for six years, I suddenly got an offer to buy it in late July. I had to move out in 30 days. I was not able to conclude a purchase of a condo within that time period.
To my great relief, a friend loaned me a rental home in the town where I have worked part-time for 12 years.
I moved out of my home after it was packed up, and stayed at a motel, while my pets moved into a boarding kennel.
I watched my household goods disappear into a giant moving van and head down the road into the distance on Aug. 29. While homeless, I spent four days in the motel.
I arrived at my temporary home with a few carloads of clothes, books, and kitchen equipment on Sept. 1.
I am grateful to my friend for offering to let me rent her former home for a few weeks or months while I wait for a permanent place to live.
What it’s like to deal with all the changes
My temporary home is plenty big, but is not “home”. I am enjoying living in town for the first time in 24 years, with the conveniences that a town of 4,000 people offers such as a grocery store 5 minutes away, other nearby stores, and a movie theatre. I can even walk to work at one of my part-time jobs.
But my pets are unhappy, and I can’t help them. My cat is confined inside, which she resents. I know this from her crying and running restlessly from room to room jumping up onto windowsills. She is calmest when I open a window and she can lie on the windowsill and breathe the outside air and look out at the birds, squirrels, and insects.
My dog has a fenced backyard to live in, but can’t roam the woods as she did during her whole 11 years of life at my former home. She has to go on a leash everywhere we walk together. She looks at me constantly, asking, “Can we go home now?” She can’t understand that we can never go “home” again.
And most likely, I will have to give her to another family when I finally move to a permanent home/condo. She doesn’t know that either. But I do, and it grieves me.
Moving is one of the most stressful things you can do.
Moving means change.
You change your residence, change your living conditions,change your financial state, possibly take on a new mortgage, change your social activities and leave neighbors and friends behind, change your recreational activities, and change your eating and sleeping habits.
That’s a lot of change in a short time – just a few days — as you move from one place to another. Stresses like those that go with moving can put you at risk for illness.
I felt very unsettled during the first week in my temporary home.
I have had to develop new habits to take care of my dog: regular walks so that she can go to the bathroom. I have to collect the results in plastic bags and dispose of them. This was never necessary when we lived in 6 acres of woods.
I’m letting her in and out of the house more frequently. She is an outside dog (her choice), but has been very clingy since we left home, and follows me from room to room to keep an eye on me.
And it’s now just the pets who have to change their habits. There are a lot of changes I have had to make in my temporary home:
The new kitchen has taken some time to get used to: an electric stove instead of the gas stove I am used to, no operating dishwasher, very little counter space to fix meals, a whole different set of cabinets and drawers to store the few utensils I brought with me, and new locations for canned goods and staples for cooking.
The new bathroom has no shower. I’m not physically able to get down on my hands and knees and put my head under the bathtub faucet to wash my hair, so my plan is to visit the local health club and arrange to take showers there a few times a week.
My friend’s brother installed a shower head on a cord that connects to the bathtub water supply, but I have to get into the tub and sit down before I can use it. It’s difficult to get out of the tub at my age.
The house has six steps to go up and down every time you leave or arrive. This is hard on my knees.
There are very few electrical outlets (something I took for granted), so I can’t have any lamps (there’s no place to plug them in). I have to rely on the overhead lighting (very elegant in this Craftsman house).
I had to buy a twin bed to sleep in while I wait here for a condo to become available, and I’m used to a queen or king. There’s no headboard.
I have no chest of drawers to keep my few clothes in, so they are stored in piles in two suitcases on the floor.
The keys don’t work in the front door – only in the back door. There’s no latch on the back fence gate, so I have it tied closed with an old dust rag.
I don’t have a comfortable chair to sit in.
The basement stairs are steep and narrow, so I’ve decided to use a nearby laundromat instead of the basement washer and dryer.
And on and on.
I’m not listing all these things just to complain or get sympathy. I’m listing them as examples of the myriad changes I’ve had to make in just a few days – going from a comfortable, fully furnished, familiar place to a completely empty, strange place.
If you are moving, or you have a friend or relative who is moving, then it’s important to understand that a person who is moving needs someone to listen to her.
Venting the enormous feelings that build up during a move is vital to surviving it. Change is hard. A friend or relative with a listening ear will help the person who is moving far more than packing boxes for her.
The immediate future for me
As for me, I don’t know how long I’ll be here. Probably one to three months.
I don’t know for sure where I’ll be going when I leave here.
It’s a lot of uncertainty! Damn it!
So I suppose it’s not surprising that I find myself weeping almost daily as I confront my situation.
But after I’ve wiped my eyes and blown my nose, I realize that I will manage to get through this.
It’s a difficult time, but I’ve been through worse.
When your house has been on the market as long as mine has (6 years), it comes as a shock when it finally sells.
This is what happened to me one week ago: I got an email saying that a purchase agreement on my house was now in effect and requesting a closing in 30 days.
At the time, I was living in a tent in the mountains of southern Colorado, taking part in my annual archaeology volunteer experience.
For the last six years, I’ve been slowly giving things away and selling things, so that I could be ready for downsizing and relocating. But so much time passed that I began to feel hopeless – the house would never sell and I would never move.
But as I read the email in my canvas tent in Colorado, my emotions ranged from shock to denial, as the early stages of grief generally do. I could not believe IT HAD FINALLY HAPPENED! My house is sold. I have to move. I’m going to lose my home in the woods.
But where will I go?
Finding a new place to live
I had looked for a new place for one day earlier this summer, and had made an offer, but it was not accepted. I was outbid by another buyer. I had no opportunity to look further for housing before I left on my archaeology trip.
So now that the house was sold, I REALLY had to find a place to live, and quickly. I had to do something!
Next, I felt panic, and my thoughts raced forward like this:
I will have to sell or give away about half of my possessions.
I will have to store the rest because I have no place to live.
I will have to find a place that allows dogs and cats.
If I can’t find such a place, I may have to give up my pets.
I may become homeless and live in my car for months!
I’ll have no address and no phone!
I won’t be able to get mail or phone calls!
I may never find another suitable place to live!
This sequence is known as “catastrophizing.” This is the thought process that takes place when you’re in shock and you don’t have the information you need to make good decisions or plans. Instead, your mind and emotions combine to come up with the worst possible outcomes and horrible things that could happen, i.e., catastrophes.
Fortunately, I recognized my catastrophizing and put a stop to it. I told myself that since I was currently living in a tent in the wilderness, there was nothing I could do about my house sale, or my quest to buy a new house, so I might as well put it out of my mind and just enjoy the last day of archaeology camp. I could spend the upcoming 20 hours in the car driving home thinking and planning to my heart’s content.
Which I did. For 20 hours.
I came up with a plan for the next two weeks:
Call my realtor and spend the next weekend looking for a home and making an offer. Apartments are out of the question, and I don’t need assisted living.
Contact two lenders and get pre-qualified for my new mortgage.
Call an auctioneer and make arrangements for a truck to pick up the furniture and household goods that I’ll have to sell.
Contact two moving companies and get estimates on packing, moving, and storing my possessions.
Start sorting my stuff and taking loads of it to Goodwill if it’s not saleable.
Make a list of who should be notified that I’ll be leaving in 30 days.
Find out what do to about my mail.
Find out what to do about my phone.
Find out what to do about my satellite TV subscription.
Contact the utilities (gas and electric) and get their instructions for stopping service.
Figure out where I could live on a temporary basis after I move out of my house, but can’t get possession of a new place. This could be one to three months.
You can see from that list that I had a lot to do for both downsizing and relocating. They are two different processes, but are closely related for many people.
I am working on both processes, but they are complicated.
As a retired person, I know I don’t need all the “things” that I still have in my home. Getting rid of some of the “things” that we have surrounded ourselves with during a lifetime, moving out of a large home, and moving into a smaller abode is now known as “downsizing.”
Downsizing is typically done by empty nesters – adult couples whose children have grown up and left home to pursue their own lives. Empty nesters find that they no longer need four, five, or six bedrooms and a lot of bathrooms. Many choose to clean out the family home, get it ready to sell, and move into an apartment, condo, or smaller house.
Single adults like me also choose downsizing. We decide that we no longer need a large home to host adult children and/or their families, give parties, hold gatherings or meetings, and so on.
Sometimes young families choose downsizing. It’s a way to get more time to spend with children and reduce the amount of time spent taking care of a house and yard.
We can use downsizing as a way to set priorities. As one author put it, “Think of downsizing as a way of looking at your life and deciding what’s important in it.”
Also, as we age, we may become less able to shovel snow, mow the lawn, till a garden, climb steps, clean the house, do other maintenance like painting or gutter clearing, or rake leaves. We discover that we could move into a housing situation where little or no maintenance would be required, such as a condominium association. This sort of downsizing is related to a person’s ability and mobility ratings.
Downsizing can have advantages like
freeing up time previously spent on home maintenance,
freeing up money formerly spent for higher utility bills and taxes that come with a larger home,
decluttering a home environment, and
providing a new perspective on how to live.
But downsizing is difficult for many of us. It can be traumatic. For me, choosing which of two china cabinets to keep is agonizing. One is my mother’s, and one is an antique that I love. How can I get rid of either of them?
And what about the file drawer with research projects that I started but never finished? How can I dispose of plans and notes that took hundreds of hours of work?
And my collections. I have a collection of American pressed glass, and a collection of photo albums, and a collection of American Indian art.
Then there’s my jewelry – 6 jewelry boxes of necklaces, earrings, pins, and bracelets. There’s virtually no chance that I will need all this jewelry in the future.
I felt paralyzed by the need to make so many decisions that end up disposing of things that I love. This is part of downsizing. It has to be overcome and dealt with.
That is hard, but possible.
And then there’s relocating. This also is difficult.
Moving out of a beloved home or even a home we don’t like entails a lot of logistics, thought, effort, and emotional turmoil.
Relocating is more than just deciding to live somewhere else.
Americans move fairly often.
Between 2012 and 2013, 28 million Americans 15 and older moved — that’s 11 percent of the population in that age group. But when you take a closer look at who they were, you see there’s a lot more to it than age. The wealthiest individuals are the most likely to stay put: 7 percent of Americans with an annual income of $100,000 or more moved, compared to 13 percent of those earning $5,000 or less.
Moving and relocating are complex.
They mean giving up routines and habits: how we walk around in our current spaces vs. how we will walk in our new spaces, traveling on different roads to get from one place to another, using different forms of transportation (e.g., cars vs. city buses or light rail trains), learning where stores and services are located in a new community, changing doctors, adjusting to a new climate, learning a new address and phone number, finding new sidewalks or walking paths for our daily walks.
They can mean losing close touch with friends and relatives.
They can even mean giving up beloved pets. This is a painful situation which I find myself facing.
I found out that it’s almost impossible to find a condominium association that allows dogs. I managed to find one, but it only allows dogs up to a certain weight (which my dog exceeds). How can I give up my companion of 11 years? On the other hand, my dog will hate living in an apartment, which is what a condominium is, really.
My dog is used to living in the woods on 6 acres of land. She spends her days chasing chipmunks, rabbits, squirrels, and birds; sleeping under evergreen shrubs or in the sun; walking in the woods; sniffing everything. She sleeps at night outside in a doghouse. What will it be like for her to stay in an apartment almost all day and all night?
Cats are welcome in most condo associations. I’ve read that cats are attached to place more than to people. So it will be disruptive for my cat to be taken to live in a new place. But she will adapt.
When I move back to the city, I’ll have to give up two of my part-time jobs. I’ll also have to learn new places to buy things I need and find new people to provide services. There will be uproar. I will feel disoriented. Knowing that I should expect to feel overwhelmed for a while is helpful.
But hey – most people through the ages have lived in far smaller spaces and with far less stuff than I have. They have survived.
This is not my first move. I’ve moved three times in the last 30 years. I know that I will survive my next relocation, and that gives me confidence. The average person moves 11.4 times during a lifetime. According to my calculations, I have moved 12 times already in my life. This one will be number 13.
Americans move for many reasons: job change, wanting a bigger house, wanting a smaller house, changing marital status, retirement, health issues, chasing a dream, wanting to get out of a neighborhood they don’t like.
My reasons: I want a smaller place that’s easier to take care of, I want to get away from home and yard maintenance, I want to be in an urban area, and I want to be near family.
What you need to do to downsize and relocate successfully
If you have a good plan, you can accomplish almost anything. Here is the series of steps that I’ve read about and used in my moves. I’m using this set now also.
Go through your home room by room. Clean out every closet, shelf, and cabinet one at a time. Then put back just the minimum you need to sustain your life. Do you really need that melon-baller? How about the sequinned top you bought for possible holiday parties that never took place? And the three camping coolers in the garage: can you get by with one?
And what about all that furniture? Most of it won’t fit in your new home situation. Measure the furniture you have decided to keep. Will it fit in your new apartment, condo, or townhome? If not, you have a choice of what to do with it: sell, donate to charity, give away to friends or relatives, or send to the landfill.
Assess the new storage areas you will have in your new place. What will fit? Do you need to reduce the three boxes of Christmas decorations to one box? Should you sell or donate your cross-country skis, and just rent when you want to ski? What about luggage? Do you need three suitcases?
Go through your current storage areas (attic, basement, garage) and dispose of whatever you can that is no longer needed. Give items away to thrift shops, Freecycle, or neighbors. Where I live, you can put unwanted items out on the edge of the street and people will come and take them away.
Sell your expensive or large items at a yard sale, consignment shop, eBay, local auction house, or Craigslist.
Organize your remaining possessions as you pack to move. Label everything. The things you plan to store should be in accessible storage containers, like plastic bins. The boxes and bins that are going to specific rooms should be labeled for their destination, such as bedroom, bathroom, kitchen.
Move your furniture into your new home first and place it where it should go: bed in the bedroom, recliner in the living room, dining room chairs in the dining area. Then move the labeled boxes into their respective rooms. The items to be stored should be placed in the storage areas last.
8. When you are getting ready to move to your new home, spend some time doing reconnaissance. Where are the grocery stores? Where are the drug stores, hardware stores, veterinarians, dentists, farmers’ markets?
Drive around or ride public transportation and find the stores and services that you will need right away. Get a bus schedule. Call the city offices and get information on water and sewer connections. Ask what TV and telephone services are licensed in the city or area. Find out where to register to vote.
9. Changing addresses is a HUGE job. You’ll have to contact every creditor, every friend or relative you want to keep in touch with, every online retailer you use, your former post office, your new post office, and on and on. Make a list. It will save you time.
10. Meeting people is the next challenge. Introduce yourself to your new neighbors. Find out where people go for coffee or out to eat. If it’s part of your life, find the places of religious worship, AA meetings, senior centers, dog parks, gyms, schools, and places where clubs like Lions and Rotary meet. You need to create a new circle of friends and acquaintances to be a support network, and that takes time and effort.
I found a condo to buy, but I can’t get possession right away. I have to wait one to three months. This set off a cascade of panic, fear, list-making, internet-searching, social media discussion, and success: a friend offered a house I can rent affordably for the time I’ll be homeless.
What a relief!
You will hear from me again in a few weeks, after I’ve made it to the transitional house with my dog and cat and computer. I’ll be pretty busy packing my belongings and supervising the moving van, cleaning out my current home, and dealing with lenders and closers.
Wish me luck! More later on downsizing and relocating: my experiences.
Have you wondered how women over 60 are spending their time after they retire from full-time work, careers, or homemaking?
Maybe you or a loved one is approaching age 60 with concerns about what it will be like to be 60 or more years old.
How do YOU think about older women? Do you hold stereotypes about women over 60 that are anything like these?
Older women spend all day watching TV
Older women are playing golf in Florida or Arizona with their husbands
Older women are disabled and sitting in nursing homes
Older women are ill and don’t care much about the world around them
Older women are traveling on cruise ships with friends
Some other stereotype
Well, you may be surprised to learn that these stereotypes are nottrue for many older women!
Of course, some women over 60 ARE playing golf, cruising, watching TV, or coping with a chronic illness. But not all of them.
In this article, you’ll find out the truth about how some women over 60 are spending their time and how their thinking about aging has changed.
You may find that you are excited about the possibilities for freedom and self-expression after age 60!
Here’s how I got my information:
I recently asked a dozen women friends of mine from all over the U.S. to complete a survey about their activities before and after they turned 60. I think you’ll be amazed about what those who sent back completed surveys revealed about their lives.
–Some of the women are Baby Boomers, and some are part of the Greatest Generation.
No real names or identifying information are used in this article. Everyone gets to keep her privacy and anonymity! I’ve used pseudonyms to refer to my friends’ information.
If you would like to share your information with me, please take the survey that you will find here: Senior Women Questionnaire, and then scan it and email it to me. If I get enough new surveys, I’ll write another post with those results!
And now, the truth about how some of your peers are spending their time! This information came from the completed surveys I received.
Each woman had a demanding career that took a lot of her time.
After age 60, the women decided to spend their time doing activities they enjoyed but did not have time for when they were working.
–Barbara worked for a Community Rehab Program that provided guidance for people with disabilities. After age 60, she spent her days in her home music studio creating tunes and soundscapes on a synthesizer.
–Anna taught high school in an urban school district. After age 60, she sold her urban home and moved to a rural area, started a business selling European quality jewelry and Asian handicrafts, sold that business, moved back to her original urban area, and began Permaculture training. She now is head gardener at a senior living facility.
–Frances was a 6th grade teacher in a small town until she married. After her marriage she was often called to substitute teach. When her daughter was grown, she spent a lot of time on her handwork including knitting and other crafts, in bridge groups, visiting with friends, and in traveling around the U.S.
–Carol worked as a teacher and coordinator in a large urban school district. After age 60, she did educational counseling, volunteer work at church and Rotary, attended cultural activities, and travelled internationally once or twice each year.
–Deanna taught accounting at a state university. After age 60, she continued to teach, traveled, took acting classes, and performed in plays.
–Grace quit work at 51 to care for her mother who had ALS. After her mother died, Grace cared for her husband until he died of cancer. Then it was Grace’s turn to be cared for, as she faced mental health issues. She met a new partner and they enjoyed life briefly until he too became ill, and once again she served as care giver. After she turned 60, Grace faced health issues. Today, she works with other women in recovery and spends time biking, rollerblading, walking, reading, and gardening.
Many of the women found that turning 60 gave them time and space to do what they wanted to do and be who they wanted to be.
After age 60, women felt free to be themselves.
–Carol wrote, “The best thing was being able to find out what I wanted to do, having sufficient resources to do those things, and then doing them.”
–Anna’s best thing was “more time to pursue life-long interests [and] the opportunity to live with the most interesting people I have ever been around!”
–Barbara’s best thing was “freedom to decide how I spend my time from moment to moment.”
–Helen loves being able to do as she pleases with no one to answer to — “not kids, not a husband, not a boss, just me!”
–Ellen’s best thing was “free time.”
–Grace’s “best thing” is “using my authentic voice more often. I’ve always been outspoken, but I think I am even more outspoken now than I have ever been.”
Some of the women had husbands or partners, and some did not.
Some were widowed and are spending their senior years alone.
—Frances’ husband died when she was 59. “That changed my life completely,” she wrote, but she did not elaborate. Frances is now over 100 years old.
–Carol’s husband died last year, when she was 73. She is doing her best to live life to the fullest, including increasing her consulting, traveling, time with friends, and volunteer work.
–Deanna’s partner also died last year. She is hoping to move into a retirement community in the next two to three years.
–Helen has been divorced for 30 years and has enjoyed both solitude and being with friends. She is going to move to a major city soon to be near family.
–Anna has enjoyed 17 years of retirement since she stopped teaching. Her husband died many years ago. In 2005 she became reacquainted with a man she had known in the past, married him, and cared for him during his last illness until he died in 2009. She moved into a retirement community in 2014 and is very busy.
–Barbara and her partner are enjoying retirement together at their home in the South.
–Grace’s husband died when she was in her mid-50s. Later, she met a new partner and they enjoy traveling around the U.S. and Canada.
Some of the women over 60 found ways to express themselves in the arts.
–Deanna began taking acting classes and performing in plays at a local theatre.
–Anna is becoming a better weaver and learning to spin.
–Helen became a freelance writer.
–Frances continued to knit and do crafts.
–Barbara became more adept at her synthesizer, working with sound and harmonics, studying acoustics, physics, and sound design.
Many of the women wrote about what they wished they had known about aging before they turned 60.
It’s only recently that Americans have started to show interest in aging, especially Baby Boomers!
–Frances wants other women to know that after they are 60, they are still young enough to keep active, and they should never lose their faith in God.
–Ellen would tell other women, “The best is yet to come!”
–Carol advises women, “Embrace it. This is the time to truly be yourself and do the things that provide stimulation and contentment with people you choose to be with.”
–Anna wrote, “Whatever age you are, insist upon defining yourself. Don’t allow others to do this for you!”
–Barbara said, “Aging is an opportune time for expanding spirit toward a greater understanding and acceptance of self and others. The biggest obstacle is clinging to the past. Everything you do, everything you think – must be questioned.”
–Helen wished she had known how free she would feel to be herself and not care what other people think.
–Grace’s advice: “Women should know that we become bolder as we age.”
–Deanna wrote, “Sixty is the new thirty! I read somewhere that one should lay the groundwork for staying fit during this time.”
Women over 60 are feeling freer and more in control of their lives and choices.
As I learned from the completed surveys that my friends sent, women over 60 are doing an amazing array of activities: acting, writing music, helping others, playing the cello, teaching, travelling, volunteering, starting new businesses, gardening, doing handwork, writing, mentoring other women, and on and on.
If we let ourselves welcome this and succeeding decades, then we women over 60 will enjoy our lives to the fullest.
What have you wanted to do for years, but haven’t?
Why haven’t you? Lack of money? Fear? Embarrassment? Worry about what people might think?
Regardless of your reason, let me tell you: your reason is no good. It’s not a worthy excuse.
Because there are NO worthy excuses for not doing what you want to do.
We only get one chance at life. This is it. This is not a dress rehearsal.
This is your one and only life.
So would you like to rethink your answer to this question: What have you wanted to do for years? Travel? Take lessons? Do nature photography?
Write it down. I’ll help you find a way to do that thing you want to do. It takes six steps.
Here’s the way to get it done:
Let’s start with “dream.”
Here is where you start. What have you wanted to do for years? What have you dreamed of doing “some day”?
Think about those activities you want to do or that purchase you want to make, or that trip you want to take, or that course you want to sign up for, or that person you want to meet.
Whatever it is that you have wanted to do for years, fill your mind and imagination with it. Did you want to design your own house? Do you still want to do it? Then let’s get started!
List it or them – those things or that one thing — what you have wanted to do for years.
Write it – or them – down. Make a list. Don’t number it yet, just jot down the things you have always wanted to do.
Don’t censor yourself. Write down EVERYTHING you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet done.
Look at what you’ve written. Is anything left out? If it is, add it to the list.
“Some day” is here.
Today. You aren’t promised any tomorrows. You only have today to decide to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.
Are you willing to say Yes, you’re going to do them? The thing or things that you’ve always wanted to do?
Good! Keep going:
Choose one thing from your list to get started on. You can come back to the list later to choose other items.
What would be the most important thing? Or the easiest and most likely thing for you to be able to do? You pick.
Do you have your one thing chosen? Circle it. Underline it. This is the thing you’ve always wanted to do that you’re GOING TO DO.
Now we’re going to find out how to make this thing happen. It’s going to take a little time to figure out how to do it.
Your thing may cost money, or may require you to make other arrangements to take care of the obligations you have, or may take time to set up. That’s what we’re going to find out now.
Go on the internet at home or at the library. Ask Google to help you. Go to the Google search engine and type in questions to get you the information you need to arrange to do the thing you’ve always wanted to do!
–What does it cost to take a hot air balloon ride?
–Where can I sign up for a course in Fashion Merchandising?
–How much does it cost to fly to Costa Rica?
–How can I meet Brad Pitt?
–How long does it take to learn Mandarin Chinese?
–Where is the nearest dude ranch that accepts older visitors?
–What shots do I need for a trip to Africa?
–Your questions here.
2. Investigate everything you need to know about the thing you want to do. How much it costs, where you have to go to do it, what permissions or visas or education you need to do it, who has to be consulted, when it is available, what limitations or restrictions may affect you.
3. Write everything down. Now you have knowledge, and this knowledge will give you the power to make your dream come true.
Now you know how much it costs and when you can do it and where you have to go to do it.
So let’s figure out how you can raise the money.
–Cost: what are your sources of funds for this thing? Do you have savings? Do you have income?
–Get an envelope out and write your thing on it: “Trip to Costa Rica,” or “Fashion Merchandising course”, or “Colorado Dude Ranch” or “Spa Weight Loss Regimen”.
–Put $5 in the envelope.
Now you’ve started to make your thing happen!
You know the total cost of your thing, and you need to acquire the money to do it.
If you save $5 per week, in one year you’ll have $260. If you save $10 per week, you’ll have $520. Etc. How much do you need to save each week to be able to do the thing you want to do? Figure it out.
How long do you need to wait and save before you can do it?
Let’s say you want to do your chosen thing within one year. It’s going to cost $4,500. Is it realistic to think you can save $4,500 in one year from your current income? If not, then what other avenues are open to you to get the funds?
There are many ways you can increase the contents of your envelope by earning money outside of your regular income sources.
So make a savings/earning plan and set a time limit for raising the money you need to do the chosen thing you’ve always wanted to do.
Next, is WHEN you can do it.
Is your thing seasonal in some way? Does it depend on other things for it to occur (like the Olympics, every two years one is held either in summer or in winter)? Write down the circumstances. For example:
–For me to attend the Cannes Film Festival, I have to be in southern France in mid- to late May.
–For me to visit a dude ranch in Colorado, I have to make a reservation for a week or two-week stay during the summer months of June, July, or August.
You can’t go to the Cannes Film Festival in January or visit a dude ranch in December. So finding out the appropriate time for your thing is important.
Now, you have to find out WHERE you have to go to do it.
–For the Cannes Film Festival, you have to go to southern France.
–For a dude ranch visit, you can go to Colorado, Wyoming, or Montana for sure, and possibly to other western or northern Plains states. Do your research to find out where the best dude ranches are.
After you finish your PLAN, you’ll know the cost, the timing, and the place you have to go for your thing you’ve always wanted to do.
Ready? Now Do It!
Now we come to the best part – You get to DO the thing you’ve always wanted to do!
Did you realize that all it takes is some planning, research, and saving to make your dream come true?
Well, now you know. You CAN do the things you’ve always wanted to do if you SYSTEMATICALLY follow the steps I’ve described here.
I hope you WILL get ready and do the things you’ve always wanted to do.
This is the only life you’re going to get.
Don’t wait till “some day”. It’s never going to come. Dream. List. Choose. Investigate. Plan. And Do it.
Make your plans and do the things you want to do NOW. You’ll never regret it.
What have you wanted to do for years? Dream it and do it!
You can take this quiz in just a few minutes. The results will tell you whether you are fully prepared for retirement.
There are many things to think about. Once you take the quiz, you will find out about the work you still need to do before retiring. You may know people who have already retired and are unhappy, feel aimless and bored, or are enjoying themselves tremendously.
Which retirement life would you rather have? If you plan well, you can have the one you want.